I wrote this post to let all my Good Lovers out there know exactly how much you inspire me! Keeping a relationship healthy takes constant determination and a selfless attitude. Your years of willpower through both good and bad times only validate how much I want to experience a loving marriage in my own life. Marriage is an Honor before God. The obedience and discipline of marriage are what many couples inherently miss. Love is what will sustain marriage but it isn’t enough to bond it. God is the glue that every marriage needs. With His loving hand on a couple their marriage will flourish beyond expectation. Some of you will be bothered when I say this but I want to encourage my married folks to stay, “Drunk in Love”. Stop minding Shawn and Beyonce Carter’s business and get some of your own. “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance”. ~1 Corinthians 13:7
I watched the opening performance of the Grammy’s on Sunday night in pure delight! The act of love that graced the stage between Beyonce and her husband Jay Z was so beautiful. The love between those two appears to be way bigger than the both of them. My mind took me right back to their 2003 hit, “Bonnie & Clyde”, which unbelievably was over a decade ago. They still seem equally as attracted to one another and equally humble in spirit. I see so much appreciation in Beyonce’s eyes when she looks at her man and such profound admiration in her man’s eyes when he looks at her. The electricity of their physical attraction for one another is magnetic to watch. I don’t think the world at large gives married couples nearly as much credit as they deserve. When the haters inevitably took to social media with their, “illuminati”, commentary my spirit was disappointed. One comment said, ‘Iluminati members don’t thank Jesus”. I have always been a fan of Jay Z and what I see in him is a creative artist who has managed to turn some of the difficulty in his life into triumph through his hard word. As a fan, I’ve actually admired that Jay Z references his spiritual beliefs in some of his raps (something he simply doesn’t have to do, especially if he’s in a cult which again is none of our business). Some lyrics that immediately come to my thoughts are, “Place any burden on me but please not that Lord”, “God’s Gift, I wish I woulda prayed more”, & “Colleek, somewhere up in the clouds like go get’em Grandma make me proud”. I’m not trying to sell anyone on the Power Couple but I do think that harsh judgments against them should make us question what type of Christianity are we really practicing? The Bible I read says, “But if you are always biting and devouring one another watch out! Beware of destroying one another”. ~Galations 5:15 I wonder deeply when we see good love why must we execute it and how will this affect the well-being of couples in the future?
I drifted off deeper in thought and I thought of La La & Carmelo Anthony and how the two survived after the negative commentary by Kevin Garnett. I thought of Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats and the public scrutiny they underwent after Swizz left his children’s mother Mashonda. The singer Pink often sings about the difficulties of marriage in her songs which I love. All of these couples have had to deal with harsh public criticism at one time or another yet they persevered and survived. Culturally, little girls grow up watching fairytales that quickly provide us with imagery that marriage will be one of the best things that could ever humanly happen to us. We dream of big weddings, big dresses and this perfect Prince Charming. What these cultural illusions fail to mention is that if we are Blessed enough to make it down the aisle many of us will do so with deeply-rooted, unresolved childhood issues and insecurities. These things won’t have anything to do with our spouse yet we often find ways to project our issues onto others. One of our first gripes in marriage could end up being us passing the blame of our own unhappiness onto our spouse. These trying times can be duplicated when a couple’s high-profile celebrity is on the front cover of every magazine for the entertainment of spectators. My only advice for any power couple as I close, (famous or not), is to stay drunk in love as often as possible! Try hard not to let the flames fizzle no matter what direction life is unfairly pulling you in. Love your mate when you’re up but don’t forget that you need to love them just as much when you’re down. Real love fights to stay alive against all odd and it beats the odds every single time. Careers, children, and time we need for ourselves as individuals will all make it difficult to participate in any relationship. Marriage further complicates this because the commitment is full-time. We are personally held accountable each and every time to be there for our significant other. If we can enter into it replacing the fairytale with the real harshness of everyday life, then we have a fighting chance that divorce will never enter our doorstep. Give and takes, a ton of compromising, loyalty, kindness, trust and of course love and light make for a recipe of undying marriage. Those of us that are single need to build our couples up and let them know how much we admire their strength in marriage. Let’s commend the celebrities we see that have made marriage an example rather than tearing them down. Offering encouragement and a useful listening ear is what will help our couples to stay powerful in their love! Let’s support them!