The Brooklyn Chronicles, Inc., is a lifestyle blog that promotes Peace & Love. Encouraging healthy lifestyle, from relationships to good nutrition. Barbara interviews and uplifts Brooklynites that have experienced some of life's most adverse circumstances. Connection with another person in any capacity that is positive is priceless! Barbara teaches through her own personal experiences in love, loss and adversity. She focuses on the importance of self-love, while emphasizing that deep connection with the Creator, God, Jesus, and the Spirit are key to liberation from all of the chains that bind us. The ultimate result is a happy and joyful life free of baggage.
Barbara A. Crooks graduated from St. John's University (Queens Campus) in 2005 with a B.A. in Sociology. She enjoys promoting and encouraging healthy positive relationships that are built on love. She understands that the key to loving another unconditionally is to 1st love, know, and accept oneself wholeheartedly. The journey to loving oneself isn't always easy and one may encounter many obstacles along the way. She offers advice through her own experiences, which she hopes will assist readers on their journey. She is a loving mother of three beautiful & bright children. Barbara was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. She now resides in Queens, New York with her children.
I was speaking with one of my best girlfriends the other day who's been with her husband now for 17 years. They have four beautiful children together, and after years & years of ups and downs, and a very tumultuous relationship she still finds it within herself to only say kind things about him. This particular day I could feel my girl's pain. It's the kind of pain that can only develop after years and years of being a doormat. She is one of the best moms I've ever met so I knew her pain wasn't stemming from the hardship of being a mom. I hit her with my famous, "Let's talk about it", and she hit me back with, "B, I'm in so much pain, I'm confused, I'm hurt and I don't know what to do". Now me, a firm believer of divorce not being an option for two people who are genuinely in love and in a marriage for the right reasons. I found myself torn by my personal views while listening to my friend reveal her pain. I quickly jumped into rescue mode, and told her that she is more than her marriage and that if her marriage does in fact end in divorce by no means does that mean that she is a failure, or a quitter.
My girlfriend explained to me the dilemma that she's faced with now is what a great father her husband is aside from the fact that she genuinely loves him. She is smart, independent, employed and quite capable of caring for herself and her kids without him. Actually, she has carried her husband's weight at different times during the course of their relationship. When the hurt is pushed to the side and the union of marriage and what marriage represents is examined what does a person in this situation do? What does loving a person unconditionally really mean? How much are you willing to give? If your spouse looses their job, cheats on you, verbally or physically abuses you, doesn't cook or clean, what constitutes leaving? What makes divorce an option or is it ever allowed to be an option? With mortgage payments on deck, car notes and insurance, and joint bank accounts on the table how the hell does someone just walk away? Isn't it possible that if you leave, and opt for divorce you may still run into all these same difficulties with someone else? Is the best answer to just replace your spouse and then what? Deal with someone else's bullshit? I'm torn on this, let's talk about it...
Showing posts with label Together or Apart?. Show all posts
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Sunday, June 13, 2010
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