"He Cheated With You...Now What?" (Cosmo News)

So I'm on the train yesterday when I came across a fabulous article in Cosmos May 2010 edition. The article was thought provoking for me on numerous levels. One because it nearly sugar coated cheating/infidelity by giving readers an entirely different way of looking at the subject. In the article, the woman the guy cheats with is described as, "levelheaded, and normal", vs. "a skanky ho". In summary, the article paints a scenario of you meet a guy, he has a girlfriend yet he's not married and/or engaged to the woman. He feels stuck in the relationship and for one reason or another the guy doesn't have the "courage" to walk away. As I continued reading on my commute I kept thinking to myself that if I were the "levelheaded", "normal" chick described then I don't see how I would be able to trust the guy in a relationship. I would always think back to when he was cheating on his girlfriend. On the other hand I agreed with the article in regard to the realization that not everyone is "100 percent single", especially at this stage in the game. I'm approaching my mid-thirties and this article made me look at cheating in a whole new way. It points out that if we're in a relationship and decide not to marry someone it's because we know that they are not someone we want to spend the rest of our lives with. So if the guy you meet is attached but not committed by engagement or marriage then why isn't he considered fair game? Is this a relationship doomed for future disaster or is it possible that it's the start of a beautiful healthy relationship based on the fact that the guy eliminates the girl that isn't good for him and chooses you? Let's talk about it...