Wednesday, June 1, 2011
I'm in a great place and I can feel it, touch it, and I can almost taste that there is more to come. What if I hadn't done it? What if I had ignored the visions that were so clear in my mind a year ago? What if I hadn't decided to step out and act on faith to pursue my passion? God blesses each one of us with individual talents and gifts that are unique and wrapped in his spirit. I thank God for this day and for the fact that I was able to connect with mine. God wants all of our dreams to come true and because we live in a world that makes all things possible I want each one of you to know that you can have it all. DEDICATION is a word that is way too under used in our culture. It's a word that eliminates quitting and failure at the door. It's a word that is related to perseverance, and it isn't related to failure in the least. Marriage seems somewhere close within my reach, and as my career expands I pray to God that I will walk in my marriage with grace. I desire to have a graceful marriage one that's built on love, yet submerged in self-control and honesty. In the meantime I acknowledge my flaws, and I am trying to work on them accordingly. Love, peace, happiness, health and success are all gifts that God wants us to have. The journey ends eventually and having someone to share the time with only makes sense. God is more merciful than any of us will ever be able to comprehend. When our hearts are weak and ready to throw in the towel God throws the towel back. Endearing...
I need each and every one of you to believe in yourself with fire. A fire that burns bright and runs deep. A fire that is fierce, and can't be easily put out with water. A fire that still burns even after its been extinguished. I was born into the fire sign (Leo), and that means I stay fully charged at all times. My dedication along with my determination to live a full life will always keep me ten steps ahead of the game. I don't stop because I know I can't. I don't let others dictate what is right or wrong for me. I live in a world filled with abundance and that means there is enough room for me and for every other dreamer that opts to catch their dreams the way I do. We are the generation of the Dreamcatchers and that was part of the reason Cashay Chanel, (Co-Host of Dreamcatcher Radio) and I chose that name for our radio show. The Dreamcatchers don't spend any of their time with the Dreamkillers because the consequences could cost us a dream. Dreams are precious visions from God that offer us a sneak peak into what potential our futures hold. Our dreams are our wishes. The birth of another project after starting my blog just makes me giddy, and I realize that anything is possible for BC. In this short period of time I've met people I used to only admire from a far like Egypt Sherrod, Radio Personality 107.5 NY (above middle), and Demetria Lucas, Relationship Editor for Essence Magazine. A year ago I couldn't even see anything like that happening. If you find yourself sitting here reading this and you've been pondering over an idea or a project I say, "Go for it!" The world needs you, and you need not deprive the world. You are a master at manifesting your own destiny and I encourage you highly to go for it! If no one around you gets it but you feel strongly about it, "Go for it!", and push hard. I recently designed a t-shirt for The B.C. Chronicles and for a split second I thought to myself, "Why am I doing this?" I quickly dismissed that thought because I knew sooner than later it would all make sense. Writing my blog, talking on Internet radio, attending relationship panels, working on a book, designing t-shirts, interviewing inspiring guests are all things I didn't see in my future a year ago. 10 people will read this post and only 1 person will need the message. This is how the power of God works through each of us.
I wish you all continued success and the ability to persevere in all of your endeavors. The world is yours when you take a step forward toward what you want. God's intention for you is to be happy and to live in peace with love embracing you as a light. When you start something follow through and be patient with it. Like any flower in a garden if you water your dreams I promise you that they will grow. Peace, Love & Blessings to you all!
Change the frequency whenever you can, stay postive...
I was talking to my Loki baby yesterday. She's the one I call whenever I'm really struggling with an issue because her support is undying. Judgment never comes into play within the walls of our friendship so as we discussed the issue at hand she shared something that someone in her life recently told her. The person expressed a negative vibe that they get from her when situations arise. She then said to me, "Loki we tend to have a negative view on situations we encounter." I was quiet for a minute and before responding I thought to myself, "Damn, she just hit the nail on the head!" Often times we support each other so much as friends that we get caught up in the pity party together and where we need to find balance in being positive we can often support each other in the negative. I finally responded and I said, "Loki you're absolutely right". I realized in a split second that I wallow in the negative when I feel like giving up. The one time I need to be the most positive is typically when I'm the most negative and guess what the end result always is? Because we discuss the law of attraction here all the time you already know what the end result is. My Loki baby isn't much of a philosopher, but she went on to say, "Loki we bring on the negative shortcomings in our life", and she couldn't have been more correct. I quickly decided that I needed to immediately change the frequency of how I was feeling yesterday. There was way more positive occurrences happening in my day than negative so I needed to focus on that. I returned from my writer's retreat had a new post on The B.C. Chronicles and was feeling positive as a whole to let something out of my control hurt me or make me feel physically sick. I needed to stop personalizing and even more I needed to let go of that energy quickly. What I realized as the day continue was a wakeup call I've been needing for some time now.
I am a DRAMA QUEEN with a capital "DQ". I am an emotionally reactive person that is learning with age to think before acting but at times I still impulsively speak before giving adequate thought to what I'm saying. I let the lioness roar and then I feel terrible once I calm down and I'm ready to retreat to the den. The problem with this is...The people I already have in my life have learned over time to ACCEPT my behavior. They may not exactly like the way I act yet they have accepted or come to understand me and they love me as is. As we incorporate new friends, lovers, business partners etc...into our lives they DO NOT have to accept our ways and/or our behaviors. They will take a step back when they encounter us at our worst, and they will then have to decide if they are willing, and/or able to incorporate us into their inner circle. All my daters I need you to listen closely to this one. No matter how old you are please don't think for a single second that going into a new relationship you will be able to bring all of your set ways with you. The only way a new relationship will be built concretely is if it's built on compromise. If you recognize behaviors within yourself that you need to work on then you need to be fair in letting your new significant other know. That person, then has the OPTION to choose if they want to accept you into their life. They can either decide that they are willing to meet you where you're at, and maybe help you work on your issues, or they can decide that what you bring to the table just simply won't work for them. The beauty in their decision is that although it may sting a little it belongs to them and you can't help them come to their conclusion. What I learned is that my "DQ" ways (mannerisms) don't serve me well at all, and I need to consciously work at changing them. While being a "DQ" or in full "DQ" mode I tend to personalize everything and I often hurt some of the people closet to me without that ever being my intention. When someone tells me something like, "I need time" or "I need a minute" depending on the circumstances I often only hear that the person needs a break from me because I've done something to them. Personalizing everything causes unnecessary stress, drama, sadness etc., and it's so unwarranted because typically it isn't personal. I constantly have to do a wooooosah and remind myself that I'm not living in the world according to BC. Easiest way I reach this is by letting go and letting God. Peace & Blessings to you all.
Read this rendition of the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr, and let me know what you think...
God Grant Me the Serenity
to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life, And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.